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SF Citadel presents: Locked

topic posted Mon, May 12, 2008 - 9:10 AM by  offlineLocked
SF Citadel Presents: Locked, a new play group focused on the exploration of protocol, Mastery and slavery and Dominance and submission.

Hosted by: Daddy Darin and bethie, BusDriver and Pink, and Maestro Stefanos

Locked will use themed parties based on different models of M/s, D/s and protocol to provide a space to practice, develop and celebrate the power exchange and protocol of these themes and your own.

Locked is an all-inclusive party group; people of all gender and sexual identities are welcome! We welcome couples, triads, and other M/s and D/s groupings, whether these groupings are long term or just for the night. To maintain the focus on interpersonal M/s and D/s dynamics, you must attend Locked parties as part of a formal group (couple, triad, etc, temporary or otherwise).

In order to maintain the formal atmosphere of this play group, we respectfully require the following of our honored guests:


~Dominants, please adorn your submissive with a symbol of your ownership. This could include a collar, brooch, chain, tattoo etc. We are happy to provide you with a temporary collar to place on your submissive if you are unable to provide one for the evening.

~Please refrain from speaking directly to another person's submissive/slave without permission from their Dominant.

~Dominants will please instruct their submissive/slave not to speak to any person without permission.

~We encourage you to place your focus for the evening on protocol, service and the power exchange that you practice. Space for play and socialization is available and both are encouraged! However we hope that you will utilize this opportunity to enjoy the aspects of your M/s and D/s interactions. We especially encourage this in submissive and slave participants.

Please look for more information at tribes.tribe.net/lockedatcitadel
Email: sfcitadel.locked@gmail.com for work exchange, questions or comments

Dates for 2008:
Friday, July 18th
Saturday, October 18th
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  • Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

    Tue, May 13, 2008 - 1:43 PM
    Just curious.....weren't Master Jeff and Michelle going to host a party called Locked in early 2007 or late 2006? As memory serves me, there are a lot of similarities this and their party proposal.
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    • Domi...
      Domina Lilith
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      Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

      Tue, May 13, 2008 - 2:01 PM
      They would not give details of what protocols they expected, thus kind of turning off those of us who don't want to drive all the way to the bay area and find out that our slaves are expected to spend the whole party naked and calling everyone Master or Mistress who considers him/herself a dominant. I don't want to drive 75 miles and find that I have to drive on to San Jose in order to play. And even people who live closer wanted a little more info before they came down for the party.

      Domina
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      • Locked
        Locked
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        Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

        Wed, May 14, 2008 - 8:49 AM
        Domina, we've intentionally avoided having too many rules in order to create an environment where the people attending the events can practice their own protocols, rather than being forced to practice the protocols of the party. There are a few simple rules of course, in order to maintain the atmosphere of power exchange and service but we tried to keep these as unobtrusive to our guests as possible. Without these guidlelines we feel that there would be little to distinguish our events from any other purely social party.
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      bethie bee
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      Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

      Tue, May 13, 2008 - 2:19 PM
      Hello Monty! The short answer is yes, however for reasons that I am unaware of, that never happened. If you want the whole story, I suggest asking August as she being the Dungeon Vixen would know it.

      As one of the Locked party co-hosts I would liek to add that although there are some similarities between what we are attempting to do and what Master Jeff and Michelle proposed, there are actually quite a few differences. For example, while the overall focus of each Locked party is on power exchange dynamics, protocol and service, each event will have a different theme or model that the BDSM community typically borrows from in kinky play. We will also have a short class preceeding each play party presenting the theme for the evening, and a short demonstration during the event based on the theme of the event. Attendees can choose to participate in the theme or not, we are merely presenting the opportunity for exploration for those that wish it.

      Thank you for asking!
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      • Michael
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        Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

        Tue, May 13, 2008 - 2:34 PM
        Attendees can choose to participate in the theme or not, we are merely presenting the opportunity for exploration for those that wish it.


        To Bad....

        Why does everything have to be reduced to the most common denominator? If you had a cowboy theme, I would consider it rude for me to show up in a star wars getup. I know it is a bit early to get the pissing match started since you haven't even hosted the first party but to already see it being watered down is disheartening.
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        • beth...
          bethie bee
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          Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

          Tue, May 13, 2008 - 3:06 PM
          I don't see it as being watered down although I certainly appreciate your point of view. I look at it like this, short of laying down a few basic ground rules to help keep the over all feel of the events at a certain level, it would be rude of us to require of a Dominant, "you must wear cowboy clothes to come to this event", to use your analogy. And it would be even more rude certainly to require a Dominant to dress thier submissive in anything other than what that Dominant finds pleasing. To force people to participate in the theme would be in a sense asking them to bottom to the party, IMHO.

          Personally I do hope that people participate in the themes. My hope is that in exposing people to models of power exchange and protocol that they are less familiar with that they might find something inspiring and useful to them in their every day interactions and practices. But that is just my wish.
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            Stephanie (smoorefu)
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            Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

            Tue, May 13, 2008 - 3:45 PM

            Hey Bethie, if you haven't already read it, I encourage you to read Laura Antoniou's piece, recently reprinted in the book "The Catalyst and other writings" about how to apply the Japanese Samauri (sp?) tradition to DS. It's pretty interesting, and might give you a theme if/when you run out of the ones you've already thought of.

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          • Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

            Tue, May 13, 2008 - 4:29 PM
            I'm not seeing a difference yet, really. How is "you must wear a cowboy hat" different from "you must come as a d/s couple"? Either way, there's a theme for the evening and if you're not interested in the theme, you do something else that evening.
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          • Michael
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            Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

            Tue, May 13, 2008 - 4:37 PM
            To ME, the host of an event can require anything they want, dominants wear propeller beanies and submissives wear clown suits. However, doing so would probably limit the guest list somewhat.

            What is rude is for attendees to require the host to throw their party their way. Now of course, my whining about "watering it down" counts but since the point was to host themed parties, I was of course looking forward to parties with themes and attendees playing along. When they host one that celebrates cowboys and indians or cops and robbers, I would of course be happy for them but I would not be attending.

            SF has a million parties for people to beat each other, is it too much to ask for a couple where flogging isn't the focus? Now I am not just bitching, if they pull this off, I will volunteer time and money as I would love to see this fly even if I don't like and or attend every theme.
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            • Todd
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              Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

              Wed, May 14, 2008 - 11:20 AM
              >SF has a million parties for people to beat each other, is it too much to ask for a couple where flogging isn't the focus?

              If you don't care for the rules of this party, you're more than welcome to host your own and institute your own set of rules. <shrug>
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              • Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

                Wed, May 14, 2008 - 12:08 PM
                "If you don't care for the rules of this party, you're more than welcome to host your own and institute your own set of rules."

                That's not particularly easy these days.

                Do you know of a reasonable play space for rent in the $300 - $600 range suitable for 15 - 30 people?

                Citadel is up around $1k to rent, which means that at $20/head, you need to pull 50 people on your first event attempt just to cover rent, never mind food, publicity, etc. That's a pretty big nut to crack.

                In my opinion, it's great that we have so many places to play in the bay area right now - Edges, Citadel, Power Exchange, etc. However, it's not easy to hold a private event or a high intimacy event because the current economics are difficult. Most of us can't simply hold an event on our own in the back yard.
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                  Stephanie (smoorefu)
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                  Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

                  Wed, May 14, 2008 - 3:12 PM

                  Edges rents out rooms by the hour (during times other than Friday and Saturday nights though). You might be able to make that work without renting out the whole place? I dunno, I haven't tried.
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    • Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

      Tue, May 13, 2008 - 4:26 PM
      Sounds a lot like the other couples-only, "protocol" event recently too. I'm trying to remember the name... "cuffs & collars"?
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      • Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

        Tue, May 13, 2008 - 4:27 PM
        yeah...cuff and collars
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        • Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

          Thu, May 15, 2008 - 6:34 AM
          Cuffs and Collars is now a defunct party that didn't fly very well .. we are hoping with the original Idea Of "Locked". which was infact a Name that Stef and Chey came up with with a similar theme.. My suggestion .. be patient and see what happens. I believe these hosts will put together a wonderful Party for folks who enjoy this dynamic.. and .,. if ya dont like it, then simply don't attend.. but lets Not criticize folks for tying to build something for community please!. It's freakin not easy to Host a party !

          Good Luck Locked Team, We support you !
          August and Phil
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        • Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

          Fri, May 16, 2008 - 1:36 AM
          Wasn't there also a series called "Ascendancy and Servitude" with similar protocol rules?
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          • beth...
            bethie bee
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            Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

            Fri, May 16, 2008 - 8:41 AM
            Master Jeffery and michelle still host that event. I'm not sure what exactly the rules are but I believe there are a few additional that we will not be having at Locked. Also, Ascendancy and Servitude is not a party, it's a formal dinner that they host. I've heard that they are quite lovely and very well done. Daddy and I have never been able to make it due to scheduling reasons, but we hope to be able to one day. There is a tribe for that group if you wanted more information about their events. If I can dig up the link I'll post it.
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            Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

            Fri, May 16, 2008 - 5:35 PM
            "Wasn't there also a series called "Ascendancy and Servitude" with similar protocol rules?"

            Yes, and we love Jeff and Michelle for putting on that formal leather dinner party. It's awesome. We've been to two of them.
            This is similar with respect to it's formality and desire for a more D/s-focused dynamic, but without the dinner servitude aspect.
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          • Jeffrey
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            Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

            Sun, May 18, 2008 - 1:12 PM
            There is indeed a formal dinner called Ascendacy and Servitude. Our next dinner is October 12, 2008, with three scheduled for next year. People interested in this dinner should contact Michelle and I, as it is by invite only. I invite anyone with interest to check out the Ascendancy and Servitude tribe for more information. Since it is a private event, we can be a little more strict with our rules than the average, Citadel sponsored event.

            By the by, Michelle and I completely support the new "Locked" team, the party itself, and wish Busdriver, Pink, Stephanos, Darrin and Bethie all the best. We cannot attend the July party, because of a scheduling conflict, but will look forward to future Locked parties. We are delighted that this party is back on track!

            I encourage anyone in the Scene with an interest in the formal protocol aspect of play and parties to support this event! To those who do not like that aspect of BDSM, please keep in mind that it is only one party, every couple of months, so please don't disparage it, just wait for the next open party!
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            • beth...
              bethie bee
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              Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

              Mon, May 19, 2008 - 8:12 AM
              Thank you for chiming in on this thread to give more accurate information than I could. Perhaps if you have a chance you could post a link to the tribe for those that are interested?
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            • Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

              Mon, May 19, 2008 - 5:51 PM
              Thanks Jeff,
              I was just speaking to someone Friday Night about "Locked" and they showed some concern that you and Michelle might not be okay with someone else Hosting the "Locked" party. I assured them that you and Michelle had no Issue and welcomed the new Locked Team and supported what they did 100 percent!
              Your post proves that we can all work together to make a party special.
              Something for everyone !
              Hugs,
              August
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      • Daddy
        Daddy
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        Re: SF Citadel presents: Locked

        Fri, May 16, 2008 - 10:03 AM
        Sounds a lot like the other couples-only,

        Technically it's not couples only. One dominant can bring more then one submissive to the party. We are not asking people to be in committed relationships just to come paired or grouped for the evening. We are also encouraging folks that would like to attend these parties but do not have a date to start ONE Singles thread on the Locked tribe where people can post that they are looking for someone to go with. We don't want to exclude anyone but we want the party to have a certain feel. If someone doesn't want to publicly announce they are looking for a date you can PM me and I will personally try to put you together with someone or you can just read the posts and reply via PM.
        We want everyone with a sincere interest in D/s either casually or as a full time way of life to be able to attend, enjoy and benefit from these parties and we as your hosts are willing to try and help make that happen. Thanks for everyone's interest we appreciate all comment both positive and negative. If there is any submissives that have their eye on a certain dominant but are too shy to approach them PM me and I will approach them for you. I won't do this for dominants unless there is some kind of extenuating circumstances for what I hope are obvious reasons.

        Regards, Darin
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